Category: Not an Invitation

This one is perhaps the most important and controversial “Not an Invitation” that I will ever post. There is so much blame, guilt, and judgement that surround drinking and sexual assault. There is a common misconception that if a girl is drinking and “agrees” to sex, that’s on her. She “decided” to go through with it and can’t label it rape when she “regrets it” later on.

Being drunk, inebriated, intoxicated, hammered, wasted, etc. makes you incapacitated and legally incapable of consenting to sex.

So often people feel at fault for what happens to them when they are drunk. I understand. I struggle with the self-blame sometimes, too. I think, “well, I willingly consumed the alcohol and the alcohol led to my assault, so I must be at fault”.

Thinking that way is unfair to yourself. Yes, you drank. That’s not illegal. You are entitled to drink as much as you’d like. But you know what is illegal? Sexual assault. Being intoxicated may make you an easier target, but it doesn’t give anyone the right to take advantage of your weakened state.